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Unemployed With A Princeton Degree: How I Learned Self Love In A Year Of Uncertainty

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  1. Morgan says:

    Love this. It’s been almost two years since I graduated from a university and I still have not found a full time job in my field. I had an internship in New York after graduation, but had to move back home because I couldn’t find a job there. I’m embarrassed to tell people (especially my bf) about my failures, but I feel so relieved that you were able to express your shortcomings to us. Thank You, McKenzie.

  2. Aisha says:

    Same thing happened to me. I graduated from a prestigious French university and during two yrs I couldn’t find a job, though I did everything in order to- networking events, sending résumés, social media, etc. I had to go back to school to do another Masters degree. All I’m saying is that it’s not easy and can be very discouraging, you start questioning a lot of things that this article sums up, despite words of encouragement from yr family and friends.

  3. Tracy says:

    This is my situation…. One Masters degree and no job. Currently doing another but my story changed yesterday after 2 days of intense prayers, i rejected a job because the man that offered the job wants to make me his mistress (yes be shocked, i was too). Well, my God wont give me a job where i will be in bondage so i will pass it on for that job that is mine,where in i will be favored and where i will excel.

    Delay is not denial… Pastor John Gray says it all the time. So yes im jobless only for this moment but my story can change any minute.

    1. Tee Elle says:

      He wanted to WHAT?! Girl, yes, you were right to decline that position. And, yes, the right offer WILL come along with no strings attached.

    2. ALM says:

      Tracy, I commend you for having the integrity to pass on that job. Best wishes and God Bless to you. 🙂

  4. Rose A says:

    During my 2 years out, I completed an internship and worked at different temp agencies. It’s a great skill builder. The days of getting a job offer because you have a degree is long gone. Most companies hire through temp agencies.

  5. Great lessons and advice!!! Never stop learning and invest in yourself! In my state a masters in (forensic) psychology isn’t able to get a license… That’s not going to stop this show! I’m going to get my mediation license and apply for unlicensed clinician position … I believe this speciality will set me apart…The path to success is filled with sorrow, but also happiness ! You have to be creative and network network network!!! Trying to replicate another persons path to success is going to leave you broken and unfufilled !!! Great article !

    1. Thank you so much for the words! Couldn’t agree more. Your drive is inspiring and I’m sure you’re going to get where you want to be and then some!

    2. Thank you McKenzie Dawkins!!! Bless you!!!

  6. Life! Just gotta keep moving and think in terms of self-sufficiency, cuz these jobs ain’t loyal!!!

  7. Nay Shay says:

    Great read. Loving the new site Necole!

  8. Cat Cuaderno says:

    It’s now a big global world and it is yours for the taking. Someone out there needs you.

  9. Qs says:

    I sympathize with this so much- there are so many variables in the “real world”, it is terrifying.
    Your strength is inspirational.

  10. Great article! When I found out my GPA wasnt high enough to get into any graduate school, I bawled. I couldnt talk about it without crying. It took 3 months for a job to say yes to me and it was still only part time minimum wage. I currently work 2 part time positions to make ends meet. I do not regret my degree AT ALL but its good to know im not alone in this struggle.

    1. I pray God blesses you with your dream job.

  11. Allie says:

    I just cried so hard from reading this. I feel your testimony and just made the transition to self love, myself. I have my Masters in Journalism and have been out of work for 3 months now. But i also have never had a real job outside of retail; everything ive done in the field are opportunities i made for myself. That’s the beauty of being a writer. We can literally turn nothing into something, just with our words. I commend you for persevering!! It’s like I’m reading a journal entry from last year. Keep making things happen! We con make it girl!!!!

  12. SM says:

    I’ve never posted a comment on a site before, but I felt so inspired by this. It’s been almost 2 years since I completed a master’s degree and I have yet to find a fulltime job in my field. Every morning I open my eyes, my heart sinks instead of being thankful for another day. Every morning is another reminder that I am a failure. That I am not a fully functioning human being who is able to take care of herself. But maybe.. even if I am not able to take care of myself the way I envisioned monetarily and professionally, I can begin to take better care of myself emotionally… thank you for sharing your story

    1. Tee Elle says:

      You are not a failure. I have to remind myself to stop saying that to myself. I’ve spent the last 10 months caught up in trying to become a teacher that I forgot my first passion is writing and is the main reason why I gave up a finance career. Yet I beat myself up for not passing Praxis II so I can become certified to teach math. Math?! Have I written anything lately? Um, no. So just maybe some of our paths don’t pan out because they’re not where we’re supposed to be and has nothing to do with us being failures. Something to keep in mind…

  13. sam says:

    I, too, have a similar story after two degrees and professional licensure. I just want to encourage everyone who is on a journey similar to this to remain encouraged. Don’t discredit yourself or think you aren’t good enough. It took YEARS for me to get STARTED on the path that God set out for me after finishing undergrad. But it’s such a learning experience and believe it or not, you become much more self aware and you learn what’s most important to you. Meditate, tell God thank you for what He’s already done in your self and walk in EXPECTATION. Get excited about your future as if you’re walking into your dream job tomorrow! *hugs* 🙂

  14. Sameerah says:

    Your words have resonated greatly with myself and so many others. It is easy to feel alone when you compare yourself to others; but life is a journey and you never know where you may end up. Keep persevering and may you be blessed Mckenzie.

  15. Tee Elle says:

    Some days I beat myself up for not building a new career — transitioning from finance to writing — as quickly as I envisioned and the word “failure” might seep out. But like you, I’m quick to tell a friend (or a stranger) all these motivational things to get her out of her funk. Hol’ up. What about me? Why am I quick to believe I’m destined for mediocrity and the next person is destined for success? That ain’t right. So, yeah, I’m actively trying to practice a little more self-love these days.

    By the way, I’m digging the #BWPW project.

  16. la says:

    To everyone reading. I very been there and I got out on 2 different occasions. You all will get through this is promise.

  17. Robin says:

    I normally don’t post comments on websites. But I went through the same exact thing in 2013. I graduated from Emory University in Atlanta and I got waitlisted to three law schools. I didn’t get off the waitlist and I didn’t find out until August. I didn’t know what I was going to do. Every day I felt sad because I felt like all of my friends who barely finished high school made more than me. I was extremely depressed. While feeling sad, I mustered up enough energy to reapply to law school and retake my LSAT. I got into law school in April of 2014. I cried because at that time I was working a part-time job at a recreational center in Atlanta and I was only making $10 and working only 4 hours a day. Most of the people I work with did not go to college and I felt extremely distant from them. Everyday I prayed and I went home after work to work ed on reapplying to law school. Now, I am entering my second year of law school and I am now looking for a summer job for 2016. It is very scary because where I work next summer will determine where I work as a lawyer. To be short, I will just encourage everybody to PRAY and FOCUS on the big picture. Stay off social media. Use your time to be productive and don’t feel like your college degree is worthless. My friends who I thought were doing better than me without college have switched jobs at 3 times since I got accepted into law school. When I graduate from law school, I will be making at least six figures and I plan to eventually start my own law firm in Atlanta. So please think about the big picture.

  18. Alana says:

    Too many of us livin for others. Live for yourselves and do what you dreamed of as a child and you will “MAKE IT!” Live your dreams it’s not as hard as it may seem….

  19. Alana says:

    Don’t do it because you can…do it because you love it and live and breathe it everyday! Its just your passion, not your job

  20. Alana says:

    Struggles aren’t so ugly when you love what you’re pursuing. You will make the best of your hard times and loneliness. It will all come together and make better sense once you see the big picture.. as someone commented earlier. That’s what its all about

  21. Kenyangirl says:

    I am in the same position. I graduated in August and i have sent resumes still nada. Its frustrating esp here in kenya where everyone thinks a degree equals a job automatically. Everyone keeps asking me about my future pllans and i usually say masters (i am applying for scholarships ) but honestly i do not know if im sure of my future.

  22. shenice says:

    Wow! I am truly grateful to know I wasn’t the only feeling the pressure getting that dream job after college. I recently graduated and didn’t get any job offers either. I was extremely depressed and felt like my life was being consumed with bills and working a dead end job. Well I recently got promoted and will be making a lot more money than I did in my previous position. Although this isn’t my dream job , I am super grateful and thankful for this new position because it has given me confidence that my dream job is attainable . Its important to stay positive and keep working on yourself. This article was everything . Don’t give up ladies , sometime God has different plans for our lives than we do !!!

  23. Sheila says:

    I swear that this was a blessing from God for me to read this. I just recently graduated in May with my B.A. and still work as CNA at a nursing home facility. I love my job, but I keep asking myself that “why did I decided to go back to school if all I’m doing is this type of work?” Not knocking down anyone who is also a CNA, but I want to do more,I want to do more for my residents than what I am doing now. I have been applying for jobs since May, and same as you I have been either rejected or ignored. It hurts sometimes because it made me feel that I wasn’t good enough for the jobs that I was applying for knowing that I did have the skills . I became depress, starting smoking heavily, and eating unhealthy. I used to cry unexpectedly because I felt like a big failure to myself and to my family. Just recently I decided to dedicate some time to myself in order to restore/gain love for myself. I decided to get off from Facebook and Instagram due to they were distractions for me and enjoy the outdoors.. I allow myself to be open to God and started to pray to him and “actually” talk to him instead of telling him the things I want from him. I started to be thankful for my job instead of despising it due to I had something that can help make it through. . And most importantly, I force myself to keep going because my sorrow would only drag me deeper. So far, I am at peaceful and hopeful about the future.. God isn’t through with me! Bless you guys!

  24. Kenzie, it’s so powerful of you to share this! Thank you!

  25. Emily says:

    OMG this article is exactly what I needed to read right now, thank you💕

  26. Chase says:

    Thank you for sharing this i feel the same way with my marketing degree i worked so hard to the point i haven’t even been submitting resumes. The last interview I went they told me i did well and then i never heard back from them so it was a crushing blow to my spirit especially when your competing against baby boomers. Thank you for sharing this, I am glad i know i am not alone.

  27. Te says:

    This article was great and the comments really helped as well. I will be graduating next semester with a general studies minor in sociology degree and was a little worried about getting a job but I have to walk believing all things work for my good. I also plan on getting my master in clinical counseling at a seminary college, which is very exciting. I just going to stay encourage and have forward focus as you all should as well.

  28. Ty Bennett says:

    I applaud her for tell her story. This is what people are faced with everyday. I know for sure she is not by herself. No matter where you get your degree from or what field you got your degree in it’s not a guaranteed that you will easily have your career in the desire work field that you got your degree in. Sometimes you have to make that step and start your own foundation. I definitely don’t want to be working for somebody for the rest of my life when I know I have the potential of having people work for me. It’s all about believe in yourself and having the faith. You don’t know how many doors will open up to you unless you step out of your comfort zone.

  29. Nik says:

    So what was the author major? I’m sorry depending on your major, and where you luve, you gotta go where the demand is. This is why I changed majors, when I realized it would take forever to find a job I had to switch my majors.

  30. Jmp says:

    I have 3 ivy league degrees (penn, columbia, cornell) including a phd in Sociology. Moved to a college town for my hubby’s job and struggling to find work in univ. Admin. The town seems to favor the local big state u grads with BA’s over outsiders. My hs teaching certificate is not valid here so I am taking pre nursing courses and can hopefully get a bsn equivalent by 2018.

  31. Naa says:

    Pain indeed ends. Same place I’m at. Left my job for close two years and it’s been tough. As a believer I always feel like God has forgotten about me. I can’t take care of myself nor my family and I feel like a failure most times. I know it will get better but when? And I feel like I’m a burden on my family. But one thing I know is that this one too shall pass and the Lord hasn’t brought me this far to leave me. He definitely will come through me, all I need is more strength

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