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  1. Diamonds says:

    great read! Thank you!

  2. Oenz says:

    I 💓 Mya…with a knick-knack paddy wack
    Don’t give a dog a bone
    Cause if he hit it
    You gonna be all alone

    “Fear of Flying” man, that pink cd stayed on rotation. That grandma skit still cracks me up…coming of age cd.

  3. Stacey Gould says:

    Empowerment in a strip club….. Lol delusional

  4. Nova Bailey says:

    I refuse to even read this article.

  5. I use to enjoy a strip club every now and then myself, then I had a daughter and that all changed. Strip clubs are the exact opposite of “empowering” for women

  6. I use to enjoy a strip club every now and then myself, then I had a daughter and that all changed. Strip clubs are the exact opposite of “empowering” for women

  7. “I sometimes have to sit down, examine and analyze myself and say, ‘what is a mistake?’ I’m alive, I’m breathing right now, I have wisdom, I’ve definitely evolved, so some of the things that I might have considered mistakes back then were necessary for me to grow” this is the only good thing I got out of the article….she said she goes to strip clubs to watch how powerful the women are, but look at how the men treat them and how some women treat them. The treatment of the women after they get off that stage is horrible. it would be different and f you were speaking about a sexy dance class or one of the pole dancing classes.

  8. “I sometimes have to sit down, examine and analyze myself and say, ‘what is a mistake?’ I’m alive, I’m breathing right now, I have wisdom, I’ve definitely evolved, so some of the things that I might have considered mistakes back then were necessary for me to grow” this is the only good thing I got out of the article….she said she goes to strip clubs to watch how powerful the women are, but look at how the men treat them and how some women treat them. The treatment of the women after they get off that stage is horrible. it would be different and f you were speaking about a sexy dance class or one of the pole dancing classes.

  9. Great teach young women to be strippers. Nice! Smh

  10. BULLSHIT!!!! Stripping is DESPERATION NOT empowering…yep…I call BULLSHIT on that part!

  11. Janay Ruiz says:

    I love going to strip clubs. I even go with my husband. I find women to be beautiful and some of the tricks they can do on a pole takes serious strength and skills.

    1. Yes it actually takes skill to dance!! It’s a true work out. That’s why now they have those pole dancing classes. And it does look so hard!!!

      1. Kiah McBride says:

        I’ve tried pole dancing and it is a LOT of work. My arms were killing me at the end.

  12. Janay Ruiz says:

    I love going to strip clubs. I even go with my husband. I find women to be beautiful and some of the tricks they can do on a pole takes serious strength and skills.

  13. Mandy Nicole these comments 😒

  14. It’s crazy how people want to say stripping is empowering until their daughter grows up to be one. Smh #shutupmya I doubt the average stripper dreamed that would be their career as they brushed their baby dolls hair. Women are so much more than sexual objects. #sickening

  15. It’s crazy how people want to say stripping is empowering until their daughter grows up to be one. Smh 😒 #shutupmya I doubt the average stripper dreamed that would be their career as they brushed their baby dolls hair. Women are so much more than sexual objects. #sickening

  16. And some strippers have to be heavily medicated and intoxicated to get up and dance too.. I’m sorry, but I don’t see much empowerment in that.

  17. Ms. Mya is wearing that bathing suit honey.

  18. Ms. Mya is wearing that bathing suit honey. 👌🏾

  19. Geez, the article wasn’t that bad. She made some really good points.

  20. Geez, the article wasn’t that bad. She made some really good points.

  21. well, listen gurl, that’s a bit too easy to say they are empowered just because stripping & strip clubs are hot again and glamorized on tv, but what about the reality of the job? working conditions? are workers respected? compensation for night shifts? health related risks considered ? unless strippers come forward to talk for themselves and the reality of their work,and how they feel empowered as women through their work, I don’t think this view on “empowerement” is genuine and reliable…still like Mya’s music tho and she made good points elsewhere.

    1. Alta Joseph says:

      That’s a good point about the strippers themselves coming forward to say they feel empowered. The empowerment thing usually comes from the (female) audience.

  22. well, listen gurl, that’s a bit too easy to say they are empowered just because stripping & strip clubs are hot again and glamorized on tv, but what about the reality of the job? working conditions? are workers respected? compensation for night shifts? health related risks considered ? unless strippers come forward to talk for themselves and the reality of their work,and how they feel empowered as women through their work, I don’t think this view on “empowerement” is genuine and reliable…still like Mya’s music tho and she made good points elsewhere.

  23. Tiff John says:

    #Sidebar I hate her eyebrows in this pic 😒

  24. I love when women support each other. We all have or do something that one would consider taboo.. The beauty is looking beyond our criticisms and looking into the souls of our sisters. We are our sisters keeper. Let’s get back to loving and supporting each other!

  25. I love when women support each other. We all have or do something that one would consider taboo.. The beauty is looking beyond our criticisms and looking into the souls of our sisters. We are our sisters keeper. Let’s get back to loving and supporting each other!

  26. Paradiseclothingcollection says:

    I always liked Mya from her music to her personality she just seems cool and down to earth

  27. Sally Wub says:

    Lmaooo I can’t… Get yo girl 🙄😒 Natnaal Syfu

  28. Avier Lashell Brass still 👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾!!

  29. I work as a waiter in a strip club in its far from empowerment. Men are visual- they have families a wife and a world these women will never be apart of, yes men will pay for w peace of mind for a moment but if it was that glorious and so empowering they would go outside the strip club. I don’t look down on anyone at all. I guess it depends on how you leverage empowerment- but it’s harder to start a business then find a man to pay some bills ijs …….. they make money though but if it was so empowering they wouldn’t have to drink and etc to complete the task and that’s both men and woman. Empowerment is when your lifted up mentally w nothing but the universe and God

  30. I work as a waiter in a strip club in its far from empowerment. Men are visual- they have families a wife and a world these women will never be apart of, yes men will pay for w peace of mind for a moment but if it was that glorious and so empowering they would go outside the strip club. I don’t look down on anyone at all. I guess it depends on how you leverage empowerment- but it’s harder to start a business then find a man to pay some bills ijs 😂…….. they make money though but if it was so empowering they wouldn’t have to drink and etc to complete the task and that’s both men and woman. Empowerment is when your lifted up mentally w nothing but the universe and God

  31. Stripping isn’t empowering to me but hey, that’s just my opinion.

  32. Stripping isn’t empowering to me but hey, that’s just my opinion.

  33. lol, u know i love pole dancing, but in the privacy of my home!

  34. Rafael Jenes says:

    King Solomon is considered by many to be the wisest person that ever lived and he said “Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout, is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion” Proverbs 11:22. I don’t mean to drop scripture on those here that don’t subscribe to it but wisdom is wisdom no matter where it comes from. Women whether beautiful, average or less than are so much more than eye candy for our (men’s) sexual fantasies. You’re queens each and every one of you. You should all take your places on your thrones and rule with your minds, your natural given talents, and your loving hearts. I hope that I didn’t offend any of you queens here because that is not my intention at all.

  35. Rafael Jenes says:

    King Solomon is considered by many to be the wisest person that ever lived and he said “Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout, is a beautiful woman who lacks discretion” Proverbs 11:22. I don’t mean to drop scripture on those here that don’t subscribe to it but wisdom is wisdom no matter where it comes from. Women whether beautiful, average or less than are so much more than eye candy for our (men’s) sexual fantasies. You’re queens each and every one of you. You should all take your places on your thrones and rule with your minds, your natural given talents, and your loving hearts. I hope that I didn’t offend any of you queens here because that is not my intention at all.

  36. Kagnie Renae says:

    People in these comments mad bc I’m pretty sure yall’s men LOVE strippers. That’s why you guys are mad. I get it.

  37. Kagnie Renae says:

    People in these comments mad bc I’m pretty sure yall’s men LOVE strippers. That’s why you guys are mad. I get it.

  38. Iamstyl says:

    Uhm yea no.most of the women who work in the sex industry are sexual abuse victims. There is nothing empowering about a victim acting out her victimization through self destructive behaviors. I am so sick of ppl selling this phony bag of goods to our young girls that stripping is glamorous and sexy when in fact these are just women who are damaged and have a diminished sense of self worth. Let’s stop the bs!

    1. Kiah McBride says:

      I don’t think she was saying it was empowering in a glamorous way. It takes a lot to get up on a stage in a room full of people (male and female) who critique every part of you. It takes a lot from them to still own who they are despite their occupation. There’s women working in corporate who are afraid to even wear their hair natural because of questions and criticisms. It’s not glamorous at all, and though there are a lot of sexual abuse victims, not all strippers get into the game because of victimization. I’ve known and met many strippers who weren’t abused or damaged, they just got drawn into the lifestyle for many other reasons. But I understand not wanting to glamorize it as a whole!

  39. Well, she is a dancer so she shouldn’t be scrutinised for going to clubs like this

  40. Ruth Less says:

    Good for her! Wow I can’t believe she’s 37!! She still looks 27!! Not sure about strip clubs but each to their own.

  41. Ruth Less says:

    Good for her! Wow I can’t believe she’s 37!! She still looks 27!! Not sure about strip clubs but each to their own.

  42. Proud Lady says:

    Strip clubs are empowering? YEah when a guy tells you bitch shake that ass and throws money at you reallllyyyyy empowering. Ive been down tha road and their was nothing but depressing moments didn’t feel ’empowered”

  43. Do yall read articles before yall comment or nah?

  44. I think a woman does not need to use her body to have power over her life. Use your fucking brains, that is what they are in your head for.

  45. Elle jai says:

    Your comment is ignorant @kagnie Renae. People always assume someone is jealous or the over used “hating” but in reality we are grown we all have opinions. Lol alot of strippers are ashamed of themselves and alot of men don’t respect them. Their bodies are for sale rather its for view or worst. They are a product they come they dance they strip off their clothes then have dollars thrown at them. Their body value is what they made that night. No ones hating. Just their opinions no one has to think like u or I. And neither of us is right or wrong.

  46. gellie says:

    Geez Mya…hiring PIs, stalking mistresses, staking out their homes?? Gurrrllll….#cookooforcocoapuffs

  47. @Kagnie…lmmfao!!! Eeennhhh…WRONG ANSWER! my man thinks they’re nasty…and has never given a dime to one! Hahaha!

  48. Lamorea says:

    That was a good article! Baffles me that 3/4 of the comments were directed at the mentioning of her frequenting strip clubs. Why must some of us try to find a negative in EVERYTHING??

  49. Empowerment is in the mind so im not buying that bs

  50. Xocio says:

    Mya is telling the truth, there are many women who are empowered by freeing themselves from the oppression of other’s, and the Amber roses and Blac Chyna’s of the world have shown that its about the person not what they do as a profession that counts, I totally agree most people are too judgy about life and what others do to make themselves happy or to get by Mya is a business woman more blessed than most but still real LOVE HER

  51. Xocio says:

    This is my girl love her, intelligent, talented and real, a mogul, fearless and of course gorgeous

  52. Xocio says:

    Kisses to this queen

  53. Curly Sue says:

    So the song “Ridin” is actually inspired by true events lol. She looks really good. I don’t think of strip clubs as empowering at all. Like somebody said, not until the strippers themselves come out and say this. I do love that she seems very aware of herself. Good for her!

  54. Anya Michelle says:

    She fly as ever

    imjussayin

  55. Shelley says:

    The judgments in these comments -_-….being empowered as a woman means knowing your dignity and self worth are not dependent on what other people think. Whether those people are men ojectifying you in a strip club or their girlfriends being hateful and jealous.
    How does what someone does with their body affect you? Why does it affect you?

  56. Ra says:

    Mia is so lovely inside & out.

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